Good questions!
- I can’t think of any in ASOIAF, I think GRRM deliberately avoided that situation in order to keep things simple, similar to only using Lord as a title.
- It’s a complicated question of both politics (as you suggest) and law – which title came first (so how free were you to make additional oaths), whether the law of either country recognizes titles in other countries or allows for lords to be vassals to two monarchs, etc.
- I don’t have a Patreon…yet. I’m waiting until the major rewards from the Kickstarter I did have been sent out before starting any new crowdfunding project.